My dear children,
Do you remember our winter vacation last January when we went to see your first snow? We went to Tahoe and had the best time in our little cabin, playing silly games, building a snowman, going sledding on the beach, and we even went for a fun horse drawn sleigh ride! Do you remember the Christmas Eve that we got our dog Buddy as a little tiny puppy? Do you remember your birthdays with all your friends and family, making epic blanket forts on rainy days, trips to the park, chocolate mustaches, outings to the zoo, going to the Christmas tree farm, snuggles on the couch, baking cookies, camping trips in our big tent, playing chase round and round the house, going out for breakfast at our favorite little place on Sundays, surprise visits to get ice cream after school, picking out pumpkins as big as you could carry, puddle stomping, dressing up in silly outfits, tea parties, play dates with friends, holidays with family, and all the other fun things we've done? All good times and good memories and I hope we have many many more!
Well then... I suppose you also remember the time I forgot that I promised you we would do something and made other plans instead, or that time I totally lost my cool and acted a little bit like a crazy person, or the time I just didn't feel like doing the fun things we had planned together the night before so we stayed home and had a quiet day instead, or the time I was tired and cranky and didn't snuggle as much as I usually do, or the times I raised my voice. I'm so sorry for all of that and for the memories you'll have from those times and others like them. But this parenting stuff is way harder than it looks!
My hope is that the good memories will outweigh the bad ones. I wish that you could remember "this" but not "that", but I know it just doesn't work that way. Unfortunately, you will probably remember quite a lot of the bad times along with the good. Some memories will stick more than others and we don't get to decide which ones we keep or which ones we don't. So I'm just going to have to hope that someday when you are grown and you look back at your childhood, you smile.